Beating Alcoholism with the Support of Family and Friends
If you or someone you know is an alcoholic that is quitting or trying to quit you know how difficult it can be. The ability to quit drinking and having the fortitude to stick it out is one of the hardest things an alcoholic faces when they are dealing with triggers. One of the best tools an alcoholic has at their disposal, and many don’t even realize it, is support. Support from your family and friends can make a world of difference in whether you are able to quit and maintain your sobriety. When the chips are down and you feel like you’re going to slip it is best to talk to someone about what you’re going through. For people that are in a program, such as AA, you should get a sponsor. That’s what they are there for. If you are going it alone, talk to your family or friends. They will help, if for nothing else than to get whatever is triggering you off your mind.
Talking to someone, whether it is a sponsor, a family member, a friend or a counselor will help you to formulate in your mind through expression to another person, or sounding board, exactly what is making you want to drink. They can help you come up with solutions to the problem that you may not have thought of before. Getting things out in the open is the best way to beat the odds of failure, which for alcoholics the odds of failure are higher if they don’t have a positive support system.
Another thing that is helpful is to make a list of all the reasons why you are quitting, have quit, or are trying to quit, and share the list with people in your support system. It helps you to clarify why you have made the choice to quit. It is helpful if you keep this list with you at all times so that if you run into a trigger you can read the list and it may help prevent you from taking that first drink. Along with this list keep a list of numbers of friends and family that you can call in moments of distress when you feel a trigger coming on. Prevention is 90% of the battle and if you have these two lists with you your chances of beating alcoholism are much better.
Sharing you past problems with alcohol with the people in your support system also helps them to understand where you have been and where you are at. It also helps them to understand exactly how bad of shape you have been in. You never know when you are going to have a trigger and keeping your support system close to you is like a warm blanket in a storm. They will help shelter you and protect you from yourself. Don’t be afraid, just open up and share with them and you will find the road to recovery a lot smoother. You are not alone!