Recovering Alcoholics Don't Have to Drink to Have Fun
It is a common fallacy amongst alcoholics that the only way to have fun when at gatherings of friends and social gatherings is to drink alcohol. Somehow, the idea that if we don’t participate in the fun and drink like everyone else we are being left out. No one wants to be different and if you are not consuming alcohol with your friends does that really make you “different”. Well, in a manner of speaking yes. Chances are you will remember the highlights of the party far better than your friend. Chances are you didn’t throw up. Chances are you didn’t wake up with a screaming migraine. Chances are you didn’t do something that was so stupid, that you don’t remember, and that all your friends had to tell you about the next day.
For recovering alcoholics a party or social gathering of friends where there is alcohol being consumed is one of the most dangerous threats to their sobriety. If you are a recovering alcoholic and an event like this comes up, and it will, make sure you are strong enough to resist the urge to imbibe. It’s hard; it’s going to be hard. You might as well face that now. When you are new to the recovery process something as simple as just seeing someone holding a beer can send your head spinning and make you desire a drink so badly. How to resist the temptation? That is the hard question.
If you go to an event where you know there will be alcohol prepare yourself mentally in advance. Go back in your mind’s eye and recall all the foolish things you did when you were drunk. Remember all the times you got home and don’t remember how. Try to recall all those stupid things that never would have happened if you had not been drinking. For instance: Getting a DUI and the humiliation that went along with it, the last fight you got into with your spouse or other half, the last time you ended up in bed with someone that you would never choose to sleep with if you were sober, the last time you woke up with cuts and bruises and can’t remember how you got them.
If you can see almost clearly how you acted on the last few really good drunks you were on, or better yet, had a video of your behavior, I can assure you that you would choose not to drink like that again. When we are alcoholics and we are drunk we are prone to saying, and doing just about anything. The trouble starts when we convince ourselves that we can have just one. Once we have that one it’s all over but the crying. For your own sanity, please take the time to consider whether you want to be that stumbling raving person and then be strong, your life depends on it.